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equal_yaoi

~Celebrating equal and loving male/male relationships~

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~Celebrating equal and loving male/male relations~
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~Welcome to equal_yaoi~

The purpose of this community is to provide a peaceful, safe location for fans of relationship equality in yaoi and slash pairings to engage in productive discourse, share both fan and original fics, art, and other materials, support the cause of relationship equality in yaoi, make friends, and have an alternative to the seme/uke bias that characterizes so much of yaoi and slash fanfiction.

Join the community by clicking the link at the top of the page. You can also post without joining, but that keeps you from seeing some of the best stuff we have to offer. ^_^ Men, women, and those of all sexualities are welcome to join, so long as you like equal yaoi. However, you MUST have an age of 17 or above listed in your profile to remain in the community. If you're under 17, either don't list your age or understand that you may be banned when I see your profile.

FAQ:

"Is equal_yaoi a bashing community or snark community?"

This community is not about bashing fans of the seme/uke model, nor specifically about MSTing or snark ( weepyukes exists for that, if you've found a fic or art you absolutely must take apart). The only way you will get bashed or snarked on this community is if you troll or if you have grammar befitting a monkey.

"You're anti-yaoi/a bunch of homophobes/prudes, aren't you?"

Nothing could be further from the truth. We're all yaoi/slash fans here. In fact, seeing as this is a safe space for equal yaoi writers, anyone expressing homophobic or anti-yaoi statements will be banned on sight.

"But rejecting seme/uke removes yaoi's Japanese heritage and creates generic gay erotica!"

Seme/uke is a restrictive relationship concept created out of heterosexual ideas imposed onto gay relationships, (i.e. "someone has to be the woman.") In doing so, it expresses a disproven and damaging stereotype both about gay men and about women (hey, not even all of us with depression and major PMS are as weepy as these pitiful ukes). Removing it will not change the art style, nor will it change anything other than a historical stereotype and a relationship dynamic that really isn't even that hot in many people's opinions.

"The art style is based on seme/uke! Do you people want musclebound bodybuilders?"

Seme/uke may have had an integral role in the creation of the art style, but that doesn't mean it is vital any longer. Blues and some gospel music originated from slavery as an institution, does that make slavery a good thing that should be kept in place? Of course not. In the same vein, as yaoi/slash fandom matures, it should have the capability to discard its "baby food" of seme/uke, and develop differing, more equal relationship models without abandoning its Japanese heritage or changing the looks of the protagonists to "musclebound bodybuilders" or "gay porn stars."

"Yaoi is for women."

That it is. That still does not make seme/uke an ideal relationship model, because it is an offensive stereotype of women as well as of gay men. "He's acting just like a woman" is not a compliment to women.

"You're against BDSM or all unequal relationships."

equal_yaoi is not against BDSM or situationally unequal relationships. We are not "against" anything for that matter. We're for more yaoi options that discard the intrinsic inequality of seme/uke, what with its "seme" and "uke" personality-bound roles. BDSM is unequal, but it is consensual inequality, where one of two equal persons has chosen to give up all control to a dom or top. Situational inequality is due to the situation in which two men happen to be involved (i.e. boss and employee) and does not express judgments about intrinsic personality or worth. Seme/uke is intrinsically discriminatory and judgmental, making the seme the man, the uke the woman, and these rules never changeable for any reason.

"You're against femme gay males. They exist, you know."

Not as often as some seme/uke fans seem to think they do ~_^. Seriously, again, we are not against anyone or anything, and there is nothing about doing traditionally feminine things or even having a lisp and being a fashion designer or something that is given to inequality. equal_yaoi is for a holistic vision of maleness that includes androgyny and even traditionally feminine attributes. We just don't think that a female stereotype (i.e. anorexic because it's "pretty," ignorant about sexuality, "high-maintenance," "slutty," "whiny," "weepy," "mentally unstable," et al) needs to be perpetuated via yaoi.

~The Rules~

1: Respect is the primary rule around here. This is a safe space. You must treat other posters as the human beings they are rather than as "just the internet." Also, no one here is better than anyone else. If you cannot agree to treat people with respect, even those with whom you disagree, with whom you  have had previous issues, or who were previously seme/uke fans or "fangirls," go join another yaoi community. We're here to show people how good equal yaoi is, not chase them away for our little clique's sake.

2: No trolling. Don't post seme/uke fics or art for reviews. Don't squee over how much you loved Gravitation and how we all suck. Don't join if your only purpose is to leak friendslocked posts off the community. Don't share your Fifty Hitler Post or One Hundred Tubgirls with us. Don't post solely to spark fights, or post incendiary comments. Trolls will be warned, then banned.

3: No spamming. This rule covers both commercial spam (related community, fic, and art promos are OK and encouraged, as long as your post has more substance than being a mere link drop) and irrelevant, demeaning, and nonsubstantial posts such as nonsense (i.e. "OMG CHEESE!!!!) one-line flames (i.e. "You suck!") or threats (i.e. "I'm going to e-mail what you said to all my friends.")

4: Most importantly, NO homophobic or anti-yaoi posts. Violate this rule and your ass is banned. I'm dead serious.

5: Friendslock all controversial or sensitive posts. Friendslock AND LJ-cut triggering material (i.e. rants about rape portrayals or mental illness or eating disorders or cutting, for example, or TMI). Friendslock and LJ-cut posts containing NC-17 or non-worksafe pics, fics, or discussions.

6: Please use understandable spelling, grammar, and punctuation in your postings. We're not wanting to ban smilies (Yay smilies ^_^) or expect you to be Shakespeare, but we also don't want to see posts like "i lyke yoia n u d0 2 ad me plox!!!!!11 @_@"

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